Elusive Time

"Wherever you are, be all there. -Jim Elliot

There is so much pressure to let go of the past and chase the future, but what about the present? What about the current season of our lives? It's not wrong to have goals and dreams. It's not wrong to work towards them, but can we take a moment to appreciate where we are right now? Our lives are a jumble of seasons, all-important in our growth process. There is beauty in each of those seasons, along with some stormy days. When we live through the seasons' challenges, they also bring about joy, gratitude, and transformations into our lives.

From as far back as I can remember, getting to the next milestone was my focus. Feeling as though the place I was in did not make me feel worthy enough. Always chasing the next age, accomplishment, the next best thing as fast as possible. Continuously striving for that elusive future "thing" that would make me feel good about who I am. I rushed through some good seasons (even the darkest of them). However, these turned out to be the times that contributed to my growing transformation. I lived. I learned. I loved. I hurt. I healed. I grew. I also had family that loved me, made lifelong friends that I cherish, and I had experiences that live within me during these phases of my life.

Life is still rolling by, and there seems to be more pressure than ever for our younger generations to reach the milestones, attain accomplishments and focus on the future. Time is the measure for all that we do, but the rhythm of it is elusive. We think we don't have time to enjoy the season, but there is time to be present and work towards our goals in reality. It will take the intention to do both because the world is the world, and it puts enormous pressure on us to show our worth and not get behind.

If I could give my younger self advice in slowing down and appreciating my present life, it would be this:

1. Be intentional about finding gratitude for the people, places, experiences, and emotions of our everyday lives.

2. Pay attention to the present details and all the little things that lead to the target goal(s). You will remember these more than the destination itself.

3. Realize that there is time for everything, even to pivot in a new direction as necessary.

4. Don't be afraid to try new things.

5. Right now, you are worthy of love, happiness and are capable. There is no need to chase this.

6. Follow your path. Don't be afraid to slow down or change or alter the order.

7. Don't wish away the day; they go by without the ability to get them back.

8. Pause a moment. Go outside to experience the sights, sounds, and smells now. Breathe.

In this period of my life, I am living in undefined times. As a new empty-nester, I am in the process of figuring out my future right now. I thought that I would be ready for it. I tried to prepare for the future by going back to school, but the transition has been challenging. So, I am working on enjoying where I am now, supporting my grown kids, reconnecting my marriage, and enjoying the view of something new. I am trying new things, making new friends, being creative, getting outside, being grateful for all that I have now, and being thankful for my past. I am enjoying the current season of my life.

Love & Positive Vibes

Lisa I @theresilientadvocate